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"Where Did My Desire Go?"

A Guided Workbook for Women Feeling Disconnected from Intimacy

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You (actually) haven't lost your desire. It's just buried under everything else.

  • Under the mental load...

  • The exhaustion...

  • The quiet resentment you haven't found words for yet...

  • The intimacy that feels more like a chore than a choice...

  • And the way you smile and say "I'm fine" when you're actually running on empty...

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If your interest in intimacy has quietly faded (and you're not entirely sure when or why), this workbook was made for you.

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Here's what most people get wrong about low desire...

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They treat it like an intimacy problem.
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But low desire is almost never about intimacy. It's actually about:
 
...stress that hasn't been named.
...needs that haven't been met.
...and a nervous system that's been stuck in survival mode for so long, it forgot what it felt like to want anything for yourself.
 
When your body is busy managing overwhelm, emotional disconnection, unspoken resentment, or an environment that never quite lets you relax, desire is the first thing to go quiet.
 
The good news is: once you can see what's gotten in the way, you can start to change it!

Introducing "Where Did My Desire Go?"

This digital guided self-reflection workbook walks you through seven (7) key areas of your life and relationship that are most likely affecting your experience of desire, and helps you identify where to begin making changes.

 

This is a thoughtful, body-aware reflection process designed to help you connect the dots between how you're living and how you want to feel in your body and relationship.

Inside the workbook, you'll explore:

~ 7 categories of stress and safety: emotional, intimate, physical, communication, relational, environmental, and nervous system + guided questions that help you identify what's actually going on beneath the surface.

~ A personalized next-steps section that helps you take your insights and turn them into small, doable actions (so you don't get stuck in decision paralysis).

~ Body-based check-ins throughout, because your body often knows what's wrong before your brain catches up.
 
~ A "micro-step" idea library with dozens of tiny, under-2-minute actions for each category, so you're never left wondering where to begin.
 
~ A communication guide (Appendix 2) with conversation frameworks and script starters for bringing your needs to your partner without hurting their feelings or causing tension.

Take a peek inside!

  • Format = a 65-page Google Doc

  • Designed to be filled in digitally (or printed at home, if you prefer)

  • A clean, calming layout

  • Fillable reflection spaces that expand as much as you need (no cramped PDF boxes here!)

  • Warm, direct, and zero fluff. Every question is there for a reason.

  • Questions that make you go, "Oh, so that's what's been going on."

  • Bonus! Real script examples you can adapt word-for-word (no more wondering how to start)

How It Works:

Download the workbook, find a quiet spot, and work through it at your own pace on your computer, phone, or tablet.

You can complete the workbook in one sitting or return to it over several days.
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For best results, try doing the workbook twice: first quickly on impulse (this can bring up surprising truths!) + a second time slowly with deeper reflection.

Please note: This workbook is an educational self-reflection resource and is not intended as medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice.

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Please also note: This is a digital product. No physical item will be shipped.

 

After purchase, you'll receive an email with instructions for accessing your workbook through our secure student portal. You'll be prompted to create your login credentials (if this is your first purchase) and can then access your materials immediately.

 

The workbook is designed to be completed digitally and may include links to additional resources as applicable.

What makes this workbook different...

This workbook doesn't tell you to "spice things up" or try a new position. It goes much deeper than that - into the emotional, relational, and nervous system patterns that are actually driving your experience.
 
It's also designed to grow with you, not something you do once and discard. I recommend you return to it every few months, because when your stressors shift, what you need to work on next will, too.

(And! I deliberately made this as a Google Doc so that you have nearly limitless space to journal your answers.)

This workbook is for you if:

  • Your desire has quietly faded, and you're not sure where it went.

  • You feel more like a roommate than a lover lately.

  • You find yourself going along with intimacy rather than genuinely wanting it.

  • You feel exhausted, touched-out, or emotionally overloaded.

  • You've been putting everyone else's needs first... for a lonnng time.

  • You want to understand yourself better before (or alongside) conversations with your partner.

 
Single? This still works for you. Simply answer the relationship questions about past dynamics, your dating life, or what you'd want from a future partner.

Get instant access for just $27.

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